Happy Monday! I will start by saying there are no written rules for what all should be included in your ceremony. Some brides want a traditional mass and others want to just say I DO and party. As a wedding coordinator, I’ve seen just about everything…and anything goes! The purpose of this post is just to give you some ideas outside of the “traditional unity ceremony.” The unity candle ceremony dates back to the 1930’s and was very popular in the 80’s and 90’s but today’s brides are coming up with unique ways to replace this ceremony on their wedding day. This is such a great idea for the right couple. What better way to celebrate the beginning of a new life together? Plant a tree!
Collect dirt from your home together, your individual family homes or some where that holds a special memory! Plant in a pot and transfer to your new home together. Are you and your partner world travelers? Do you have special memories from specific beaches you have been together? Or you each have sand from your individual home lands? Collect sand and label them for your wedding day then combine small amounts in a larger vessel! Tying the Knot! This couple actually used sturdy rope (or “Sheet,” as sailors call it!) to tie a fisherman’s knot. Considered the strongest knot, the rope will break before it comes undone, and it only gets tighter with pressure. Write each other love letters and place them in a wooden box to be read on your 10 year anniversary!
Essentially, the box is filled with a bottle of wine (or another liquor, if you prefer), as well as love letters to one another. You could also consider including notes from loved ones in attendance, or copies of your vows! During the ceremony, the bride and groom fill the box together, and seal it shut with nails to be opened years later. During the ceremony, the officiant explains the meaning behind the box and that it can only be opened during times of hardship. If there is never a need to open it, the box may be opened on anniversaries and replenished for future years. I love how it creates a meaningful piece of art that can be hung and enjoyed forever. Let’s face it, not many people display their unity candles in their home, but a cool piece of art like this would be awesome! The Foot Washing Ceremony! This ceremony is to symbolize the servitude that the couple is promising…they will serve each other selflessly. How awesome is that?
Wishing Stones! Ask guests to pick up a stone from a bowl provided as they enter for the ceremony. Throughout the ceremony the guests will warm the stones with their hands. While they are warming the stones they are offering good wishes and blessings to the Bride and Groom. At the end of the ceremony, the guests will place the stones in a basket or bowl, and the Bride and Groom can then display the stones in their home as decoration and a bowl of blessings and good wishes. Each of these unity ideas below are meant to demonstrate the bride and groom’s commitment to one another in front of their friends and family, and they go well beyond the more traditional sand ceremony and exchange of written vows. The most important thing is that you choose something that is important to you as a couple!